Step #5 "Avoid Telling People What to Do" - How to Forgive Those who has Hurt You

As we continue discovering ways to forgive those who have hurt us, I think this next one is also a very important one. "Avoid Telling People what to Do" You can always make suggestions, or give your opinion, but people REALLY don't have to do what you say.. that is unless you are the one in charge, but even then there is a choice you have to make. to do or not to do.

Here is what Wayne Dyer has to say about Avoiding telling people what to do -
Avoid thoughts and activities that involve telling people who are perfectly capable of making their own choices what to do. In your family, remember that you do not own anyone. The poet Kahlil Gibran reminds you: Your children are not your children. They are the sons and daughters of Life's longing for itself. They come through you but not from you. This is always true. In fact, disregard any inclination to dominate in all of your relationships. Listen rather than expound. Pay attention to yourself when you're having judmental opinions and see where self-attention takes you. When you replace an ownership mentality with one of allowing, you'll begin to see the true unfolding of the Tao in yourself and other people. From that moment on, you'll be free of frustration with those who don't behave according to your ego-dominated expectations.

Now, I have my own opinion about children as I believe it is our responsibility as parent to train up our children in the way they should go. It is our responsibility to make sure they have the right tools needed to be successful (and what do I mean by successful) I mean productive citizens who are making a difference in their lives and in the lives of others.... not necessarily, becoming a millionaire. There are thousands of millionaires who are NOT making a difference in the lives of others.

I also believe it is our responsibility as wives to pray for our husband's but not necessarily TELL THEM WHAT TO DO. We know husband/men can handle US telling them what to do. After all, we did not marry a boy, we married a man and he being a grown man.We are not their mother's we're their wives. So, our directives are done differently. I always tell myself when I'm in a situation where I want to TELL my husband what to do, "he's grown" therefore he knows what to do, he may choose to do something that I totally agree is the wrong thing to do, but I dear not tell him that it's the wrong thing to do, that is unless the Holy Spirit lead me to tell him and then it's done at the right time. Timing is everything when dealing with husbands.

To keep yourself free from anxiety and stress.... try practicing allowing people to make their own decisions and deal with their own consequences. That is one thing life is filled with DECISIONS AND CONSEQUENCES..... IT'S YOUR CHOICE...

If you're not telling them what to do, there is no reason to forgive and or ask for forgiveness when it doesn't work out the way you thought it would.

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Be blessed,
Ms. Lisa