I remember as a child sitting by the window at my parents house waiting for my grandma to come pick me up after she got off third shift.----- 11:15, 11:30, 11:45 - "Is she coming"? I would ask myself.... "Did she forget about me?" My brother Byron would stay up with me so I wouldn't be alone. He would say, "Lisa she's coming, I promise, she's coming." Then not long after that I would see her headlights coming around the corner. I was so happy to see her, Yea! grandma has finally come to get me and take me home. Not that I didn't like being at my parents house, but I just didn't have a space there-no room to call my own.
There were many nights where I sat beside the window waiting for grandma to pick me up and for a very long time I often wondered why was I the one to live with grandma. Did my parents not want me, was I different from the others? Why didn't they give one of the other ones to live with grandma, why did it have to be me? I often questioned that - to myself that is- and of course I never got a real answer. It has been the cry of that little girl inside of me that has control many of the decisions I've made as an adult. I was always questioning why someone didn't want me or why I wasn't good enough just the way I was.
This weekend I attended the "Matters of the Heart" women's conference with Pastor J. Nicole Goodson and the Restoration COGIC church family. Evangelist Roscoe talked about the little girl in us not being able to get well because the adult woman want get healed. I was like WOW.... that is powerful! How many of us let the little hurt girl inside of us control what we do?
After we finished working the altar, it was time for the intercessors to get prayer, my heart was open to receive what God had for me. As the woman of God began to pray for me there were many, many, many tears built up inside of me. I didn't know I needed to cry as I am always in good spirits and am always praying and interceding for others. But what I had to remember, as a prayer warrior- I take on the burdens of others and stand in the gap for them. This weekend I needed to be poured back into and restored.
This weeks lesson: it is often the little girl inside of us that controls how we respond to life. It is only when the adult woman is healed the little girl will get well and live.
This in itself will help you find peace within.
Be blessed,
Ms. Lisa
Sunday, October 19, 2014
Sunday, October 12, 2014
"The Voice"
Two years ago October 10, 2012 my life changed as I knew it. After 23 years of being employed at one place - getting up in the mornings brought new meaning to my life. I always said the only way I would leave is if they pushed me out... thank God for the push. You know why? Because it was that push that gave me my "VOICE"
Fast forward to 2014 - WOW... what a journey. I jumped all into my education - I found my voice through writing - and now I'm helping leaders transform their lives through my experience. "All things are lessons God would have us learn ("Iyanla Vanzant"). Yes I learned my lessons and am still learning.
This weeks blog is to just say "THANK YOU" first to God for giving me a voice that needed to be heard through my writing and speaking to the nations and secondly to you my followers. This past week Lisa's Finding Peace Within Blog hit a milestone... When I started writing I really didn't think people would even interested in what I had to say, little did I know I was making an impact on people whom I will never meet. As of today, 1505 people in 10 countries around the world have viewed my blog. WOW! What an accomplishment. And I could not have done it with out you all clicking on the link below and reading.
I pray that each blog you've read helped you either get healthy through eating right and exercising or through finding peace within by developing a stronger spiritual relationship with God and being your authentic self.
Today I am humbled to be the "Voice" for those of you who might be afraid to "Speak" out.
What I know for sure: We all have a voice that needs to be heard. Don't be afraid to share your journey - someone is waiting to take that walk just as you did.
Find Peace Within,
Be blessed, Ms. Lisa
Fast forward to 2014 - WOW... what a journey. I jumped all into my education - I found my voice through writing - and now I'm helping leaders transform their lives through my experience. "All things are lessons God would have us learn ("Iyanla Vanzant"). Yes I learned my lessons and am still learning.
This weeks blog is to just say "THANK YOU" first to God for giving me a voice that needed to be heard through my writing and speaking to the nations and secondly to you my followers. This past week Lisa's Finding Peace Within Blog hit a milestone... When I started writing I really didn't think people would even interested in what I had to say, little did I know I was making an impact on people whom I will never meet. As of today, 1505 people in 10 countries around the world have viewed my blog. WOW! What an accomplishment. And I could not have done it with out you all clicking on the link below and reading.
I pray that each blog you've read helped you either get healthy through eating right and exercising or through finding peace within by developing a stronger spiritual relationship with God and being your authentic self.
Today I am humbled to be the "Voice" for those of you who might be afraid to "Speak" out.
What I know for sure: We all have a voice that needs to be heard. Don't be afraid to share your journey - someone is waiting to take that walk just as you did.
Find Peace Within,
Be blessed, Ms. Lisa
Sunday, October 5, 2014
Fatherless Mothers - It's not your son's fault
I['m not sure how many of you have been watching this season of Iyanla Vanzant's Fix My Life episodes - but I have managed to fit it into my busy schedule. This is one TV show I will not miss. She has been sharing with us the life of one young man with 34 children by 17 different woman. Now, I am not here to judge or make light of the situation, but what I am here to do is shed some light on what has been happening.
Last night's episode was about the father's and talking with them and trying to figure out what is their thought process when it come to having children with multiple women. I'm not a man so I can't speak to that. But what did touch my heart as one young man who is 27 years old with 4 children and 1 on the way and all from different women. His mother broke down in the audience - Iyanla stopped and went to the aide of the mother. She told the mother that she couldn't just be crying, she had to put reason to the tears.
The mother shared with the audience how she be littled her son, she spoke death into his life and those words manifested through the young man's life, and she took her anger and rage against his father out on him. I was like "WOW" this is powerful. It was like a spiritual encounter was happening right be for my very eyes on national TV. That young man broke down in tears as the stronger men held his back. AMAZING!.!
I was a single mother as well. Even though I've been married a couple of times, but I still operated as a single mom. But what I did not do was take out my rage against his father on him. You know why... well I didn't have any rage against his father. We were kids when I was pregnant - 16 to be exact and he is a year younger than me... so you do the math. Who was I suppose to be mad at? Really... there was no one to be mad at. Not once did he provide for me nor did her pay child support, never bought a gift nor paid for pampers. I believe that's why I ended up marrying twice - looking for a daddy for my son. " I never found him - at least not on earth" I give all glory to God that Adrian has turned out to be a fine young man, a great husband and provider. "I'm still waiting on grands"... lol. But seriously, I know it was through the grace and favor of God he is the man he is today.
My message to you mother's who may have or are currently mis-treating your sons because of what his father did to you. STOP IT NOW! - It is not his fault. You have a responsibility to your sons. You may not have had your father in your life _ I had mine but I didn't live in the house with him. My grandmother raised me - so sometimes I felt like I was an only child being raised my a single mom.
You have a responsibility to:
1. Tell him the truth about his father and apologize for the part you played in the situation. (Adrian may have seen his father 4 or 5 times in 33 years - ) and you know what - he has accepted the fact that they may never have a relationship - he will always be his father, that we can't change.
2. Show him how to love - show your sons how to treat a woman by showing him how to treat you, teach him how to cook (he just might marry someone that doesn't know how). Show him how to do the laundry, clean the house, and show him how to BUY YOU GIFTS. He will do these things once he does get married.
2. Teach him how to care for himself. - Let him know he is special and loved. Let him know he is a winner and there is nothing he can't do that he puts his mind to. I remember when Adrian was 20 - he asked me if he could go to New York and chase his dream of singing - I said yes - why - because I loved him enough to let him go -experience life - HE WAS BACK HOME IN 4 MONTHS - :). Why because he realized that was not the life for him.
3. Let him breath - don't pat his back when he's hurting - lean an ear - he's a big guy - he can handle it. Don't bother him when he's in his room alone - most men think better when left alone - and let him talk when he's ready - all you need to do is listen.
So mothers - be the example of what a lady should be to your sons and I promise you - he'll be careful who he bring home to meet you. And if you are hurting because of what his father did to you - FORGIVE HIM and live. You've done pretty good so far... :)
Find Peace Within
Ms. Lisa
Be blessed
Last night's episode was about the father's and talking with them and trying to figure out what is their thought process when it come to having children with multiple women. I'm not a man so I can't speak to that. But what did touch my heart as one young man who is 27 years old with 4 children and 1 on the way and all from different women. His mother broke down in the audience - Iyanla stopped and went to the aide of the mother. She told the mother that she couldn't just be crying, she had to put reason to the tears.
The mother shared with the audience how she be littled her son, she spoke death into his life and those words manifested through the young man's life, and she took her anger and rage against his father out on him. I was like "WOW" this is powerful. It was like a spiritual encounter was happening right be for my very eyes on national TV. That young man broke down in tears as the stronger men held his back. AMAZING!.!
I was a single mother as well. Even though I've been married a couple of times, but I still operated as a single mom. But what I did not do was take out my rage against his father on him. You know why... well I didn't have any rage against his father. We were kids when I was pregnant - 16 to be exact and he is a year younger than me... so you do the math. Who was I suppose to be mad at? Really... there was no one to be mad at. Not once did he provide for me nor did her pay child support, never bought a gift nor paid for pampers. I believe that's why I ended up marrying twice - looking for a daddy for my son. " I never found him - at least not on earth" I give all glory to God that Adrian has turned out to be a fine young man, a great husband and provider. "I'm still waiting on grands"... lol. But seriously, I know it was through the grace and favor of God he is the man he is today.
My message to you mother's who may have or are currently mis-treating your sons because of what his father did to you. STOP IT NOW! - It is not his fault. You have a responsibility to your sons. You may not have had your father in your life _ I had mine but I didn't live in the house with him. My grandmother raised me - so sometimes I felt like I was an only child being raised my a single mom.
You have a responsibility to:
1. Tell him the truth about his father and apologize for the part you played in the situation. (Adrian may have seen his father 4 or 5 times in 33 years - ) and you know what - he has accepted the fact that they may never have a relationship - he will always be his father, that we can't change.
2. Show him how to love - show your sons how to treat a woman by showing him how to treat you, teach him how to cook (he just might marry someone that doesn't know how). Show him how to do the laundry, clean the house, and show him how to BUY YOU GIFTS. He will do these things once he does get married.
2. Teach him how to care for himself. - Let him know he is special and loved. Let him know he is a winner and there is nothing he can't do that he puts his mind to. I remember when Adrian was 20 - he asked me if he could go to New York and chase his dream of singing - I said yes - why - because I loved him enough to let him go -experience life - HE WAS BACK HOME IN 4 MONTHS - :). Why because he realized that was not the life for him.
3. Let him breath - don't pat his back when he's hurting - lean an ear - he's a big guy - he can handle it. Don't bother him when he's in his room alone - most men think better when left alone - and let him talk when he's ready - all you need to do is listen.
So mothers - be the example of what a lady should be to your sons and I promise you - he'll be careful who he bring home to meet you. And if you are hurting because of what his father did to you - FORGIVE HIM and live. You've done pretty good so far... :)
Find Peace Within
Ms. Lisa
Be blessed
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