Switch the Focus from Blaming Others to Understanding Yourself. Step #4 to Forgiving Someone who hurt you

I believe this is probably the most difficult thing in life to do. Look at the man in the mirror and tell him or her the truth. I also believe the truth is one of the hardest things to handle. Who wants to be told the ugly truth about themselves, even when it will help make you a better person. Only someone who has a clear understanding of who they are and where they are going, and what is needed to get there, can handle the UGLY truth about themselves. Here is what Wayne Dyer says about step #4.

Whenever you're upset over the conduct of others, take the focus off those you're holding responsible for your inner distress. Shift your mental energy to allowing yourself to be with whatever you're feeling - let the experience be as it may, without blaming others for your feelings. Don't blame yourself either! Just allow the experience to unfold and tell yourself that no one has the power to make you uneasy without your consent. and that you're unwilling to grant that authority to this person right now.

Tell yourself that you are willing to freely experience your emotions without calling them "wrong" or needing to chase them away. In this way, you've made a shift to self-mastery. It's important to bypass blame, and even to bypass your desire to understand the other person; instead, focus on understanding yourself. By taking responsibility for how you choose to respond to anything or anyone, you're aligning yourself with the beautiful dance of life. By changing the way you choose to perceive the power that others have over you and you will see a bright new world of unlimited potential for yourself and you will know instantly how to forgive and let go of anything.

I hold this to be true. My husband told me something a long time ago, "the outcome of a conversation depends on the response." In other words; you can say something to me good or bad, how the conversation goes is clearly based on how I respond. Here is what I do before I bring up anything controversial in a conversation and or respond in a conversation... I ask myself this question, "How do I want this to end?" If for some reason I don't see it ending well, I will not have the conversation at that time or respond in a way that will cause it to go left real quick. I will then focus on myself and ask myself this question, "What is making me respond and or react this way?" Once I've identified where I am or was at that moment, I then do something about ME and the way I'm feeling.

Just recently I was feeling some type of way with my Love, and I began to cry, I asked myself what was wrong with me and why was I crying... well come to find out, I was having one of those menopausal moments that had nothing to do with my Love. I got myself together and it was a good night.

Take time to get to know you and what triggers your emotions.. ask yourself the question."What's wrong with you (say your name _____)  today?" Tell yourself the truth when you answer.....

Remember to Smile Everyday, Show Up Everyday, and Succeed Everyday
Find Peace Within
Be blessed,
Ms. Lisa

Do You Know Why You're Overweight?

Here are a few reasons why you may be over weight... I call these the Did You Know's?

1. Stress is one of the leading causes for over eating?

2. You should eat 1% of your body weight in protein?

3. Sodium holds water in the body?

4.  The healthiest foods are located on the walls of the grocery stores?

5. Having healthy snacks are as important as breakfast and dinner?

6. There are two types of carbohydrates? Simple (enriched flour products) and complex (whole grain products).

7. Corn is NOT a vegetable? I don't care why grandma says.

8. Dieting is when essential foods are eliminated from your daily food intake? And "Diet" is the foods that make up your daily food intake, not restricting any types of foods.

If you are familiar with any of my Did You Know Questions of Facts, then your lack of knowledge could be the reason why you're over weight.

Wisdom is the principal thing: therefore get wisdom; and with all thy getting get understanding. Prov 4:7 Wisdom is knowing when to apply knowledge. Now that you have the knowledge, apply wisdom.

Remember to Smile Everyday, Show Up Everyday, and Succeed Everyday
Find Peace Within
Be blessed,
Ms. Lisa

Step #3 to Forgiving someone who hurt you - Don't Go to Sleep Angry

This is, I believe one of the hardest things for us to do. Going to bed angry. Husbands and wives do it, best friends do it, siblings do it, co-workers do it, but the bible clearly tells us to not go to bed angry. Be ye angry, and sin not: let not the sun go down upon your wrath: Ephesians 4:26. The Lord knew we would have problems with forgiveness, and going to bed MAD.

Here is what Wayne Dyer says: Each night as I drift off to sleep, I adamantly refuse to use this precious time to review anything that I do not want to be reinforced in the hours of being immersed in my subconscious mind. I choose to impress upon my subconscious mind my conception of myself as a Divine creator in alignment with the one mind. I reiterate my I ams, which I have placed in my imagination, and I remember that my slumber will be dominated by my last walking concept of myself. I am peaceful, I am content, I am love, and I attract only to myself those who are in alignment with my highest ideals of myself.

I can't tell you how many times I've gone to bed mad, it didn't matter who it was with, and you can rest assure I did not get good sleep well and got no rest. I woke up tired and still mad. I can remember one time my husband and I had a BIG fight about the yard, yes about the yard. If you know me, my yard is EXTREMELY important to me. This was early in our marriage (like month 2). Man, we went to bed mad because he didn't cut the grass the way I liked it nor the way I wanted it. Little to some but big to me. Immature in our marriage, we went to bed without saying good night, got up the next day without saying good morning. I believe this went on for 2 days.... LAWD what the heck. LOL. I finally came to myself, asked for forgiveness and apologized for my behavior. He laid down the law about how to deal with him going forward... as a wise woman, I hired a yard man, now today the lawn is no longer a reason for us to have heated fellowship. It's worth the $35 a month.

It's easy to say things like, they'll get over it, or it will be alright. But you nor the other person gets over it, and it NEVER goes away until you address it.  And when you stand praying, if you hold anything against anyone, forgive them, so that your Father in heaven may forgive you your sins." Mark 11:25. Make it right before you say good night.

Remember to Smile Everyday, Show Up Everyday, Succeed Everyday
Find Peace Within
Be blessed
Ms. Lisa

Step # 2 to Forgiving someone who hurt you. - Reconnect to the Holy Spirit

Yesterday I shared with you step 1 to forgiving someone who hurt you and that was to Move on to the Next Act. This is so important to do as it could hinder you from taking the next step, which is Reconnecting with the Holy Spirit. Now, that is to say you already have or had a relationship with the Holy Spirit.

Wayne Dyer says,-"Make a new agreement with yourself to always stay connect to the Holy Spirit, even when it seems to be the most difficult thing to do. If you do this, you will allow whatever degree of perfect harmony that your body was designed for to proliferate. Turn your hurts over to God and allow the Holy Spirit to flow through you.

Your new agreement with reality in which you've blended your physical self and your personality with God will begin to radiate a higher cause of love and light. Wherever you go, others will experience the glow God consciousness, and disharmony and disorder and all manner of problems simply WILL NOT FLOURISH IN YOUR PRESENCE.

I stand true to this and have found it to be true. Staying connected to the Holy Spirit requires you making time for Him. He cannot be an after thought, He cannot be the last thing on your mind. He has to be first in your life, first in your day. Seek ye first the Kingdom of God... that includes the Holy Spirit. This is why I carry my smile with me everyday, everywhere I go.... I let my light shine...

I start every morning with prayer and meditation, this is something I've shared with you all in my previous blogs. This morning the Holy Spirit woke me up earlier than 4:30... I got up, laid before the Lord, prayed in my heavily language, and allowed the Holy Spirit to make intercession for me, as I didn't know why God woke me up before my usual time, but I submitted to the awakening and little did I know, I would be faced with an adversary that would try to cause me to come out of my peaceful place. I reverted back to my time with the Holy Spirit and remembered the words He spoke to me this morning, "Peace be with you today."

Find your way back to the Holy Spirit and if you don't know Him, get to know Him... He's here to Help keep you, both mind, body and soul.

Remember to Smile, Everyday, Show Up Everyday, and Succeed Everyday
Find Peace Within
Be blessed,
Ms. Lisa

How to Forgive someone who has hurt you - 15 Steps to Peace

As we prepare to say good bye to 2015 we should do everything in our power to leave everything that has hurt us in 2015. You can't put new wine in old wine skin. Don't you want to be free to receive all God has for in in 2016? Did you know un-forgiveness can and will cause your blessings to be held up? Yes it sure can. Not only that un-forgiveness causes problems in your body, mind and soul. It shows on your face and the way you treat others as well as yourself.

Forgiving others is something I've learned to do. WHY? Because I like resting, I enjoying being at peace with myself and other men. The key to forgiveness is know that it's for ME and not for the OTHER PERSON. One thing that has also helped me to forgive is to not put un-realistic expectations on people. By doing this, I do not put myself in the position to be hurt or let down.

I was reading Wayne Dyer's blog last week and he shared 15 steps to forgiving someone who hurt you. I know some people may never read Wayne Dyer's blogs or even go to his website, so I thought I would share with you what he said, and put my thoughts to it.


Step 1: Move on to the Next Act
Your past history and all of your hurts are no longer here in your physical reality. Don't allow them to be here in your mind, muddying your present moments. Some of the characters who enter your story have short roles to play, others are there much longer. Some people are mean and evil and some are good and loving. But all of them are necessary to build your character in the play. Don't allow history to continue to be apart of your present nor your future.

I remember as a young girl, I was always getting hooked up with the wrong guy. I remember telling my dad about this one guy and how much I loved him... yes I'm sure I thought I did at the time... but 2 1/2 years later, he crushed my heart like a plane falling from the sky. I got over it but that thing plagued me some years until I finally came to grips to what I was doing wrong... I kept looking at every guy as if he was the one who hurt me. I had to tell myself, "he's not him"! He's long gone now and  I am no longer dealing from that hurt. I've opened my hurt to love and am truly in a good place and now understand the reason for him playing a part in my play. But I truly went on to the next act.

Don't continue to rehash your past/history. Know that everyone that was in your life at that time had a part to play, even if it was the villain. Everyone needs a villain in their life... gotta give the devil a run for his money and give the Lord a chance to leap over some walls...

Move on to the Next Act, It's promised to have a Happy Ending. :)

Remember to Smile, Everyday, Show Up Everyday, and Succeed Everyday
Find Peace Within
Be blessed,
Ms. Lisa

Scissor your way to a nice Rectus Abdominis

There are so many abdominal exercises you can do to help you get a nice mid-section but this is one of my favorites. The Rectus Abdominis Scissor. This abdominal muscle controls the tilt of the pelvis and curvature of the lower spine. It also tilts the pelvis forward improving the mechanical positioning of the erector spine (lower back ).

It will take some coordination to do this exercise but you can do it. I have faith in you. Here we go:

The movement: Lie on your back with both arms by your sides. Raise your right leg and your left arm up at the same time, as you lower your right leg you will lower your left arm and then lift your left leg while lifting your right arm. You will work your arms and legs as if they were a pair of scissors. Do three sets of 10 that's - 3 x 10. You should feel your lower abdominals tightening. That means you're working hard!

You must also include three healthy meals and two healthy snacks to obtain a nice Rectus Abdominis. Most people think that doing lots of crunches alone will give them a nice mid-section. WRONG! That will not happen! A really nice mid-section comes from eating healthy meals accompanied with cardiovascular exercises and strength training at least 3 days a week. So, get cutting and eat right. You'll be glad you did!

Exercising regularly will help you toward your quest of finding peace within.

Remember to Smile Everyday, Show Up Everyday, and Succeed Everyday
Find Peace Within
Be blessed,
Ms. Lisa

10 ways to transform your life - Dr. Wayne Dyer

Dr. Wayne Dyers was and still is one of the worlds most loved and talked about transformational teacher's. A man filled with wisdom and words that would make you think about your life in ways you've never thought about before. He believed in living life to the fullest and making the best of your life and seeing the best in other's. He's left behind a legacy of words that can transform -(go beyond your form) - your life as you know it today.

As I prepared to release my book, "Smile, Show Up, Succeed, EVERYDAY- I thought about Dr. Wayne and everything he shared with the world. As I began reading some of his inspirational writing, I was inspired by his audio - 101 ways to transform your life and I thought I would share 10 of the 101 with you.

1.  Know in your heart there is an invisible intelligence in everything and you have the power to connect with God to help you make it come to past.
2.  This is your sacred quest - look inward not outward. All you have is inside of you.
3.  There are no accidents in life - appreciate everything.
4.  Draw energy from those things around you. See the fullness of God.
5.  Be peaceful - Experience silence and here from God. God's voice is silent - Go within
6.  Forgive yourself for your transgressions - apply self forgiveness.
7.  When you seek happiness for yourself it will always allude you, when you seek happiness to other, you'll find your happiness. Happiness comes by serving.
8.  Attempt to release all enemies from your thoughts and try loving them.
9.  Release others who said it wasn't possible for you. Be open and release hate.
10. Grievance brings tumor, agreeing brings peace

I believe these 10 ways to transform our lives Dr. Dyer shared with us is so true. I personally believe it is important to know that God has given us everything we need to get what we need and want. I believe it is important to look inside ourselves to find the strength we need to move forward. No, there are no accidents. All things are lessons God would have us learn. If it's negative, there must be a positive to make it effective. If there is no positive in the negative, let the negative go. Silence is the first thing I do in the mornings. Spend time with The Lord every morning, your day is promised to be wonderful. Giving to others always makes you feel better. At the end of the day we are all servant leaders. Holding on to past hurts and those who have hurt us really only ends up hurting us. So release those people who you are holding on to and causing you to become someone you don't like. Find peace with all men... own no man nothing but Love.

Dr. Wayne was all about peace, love, and happiness. What's your message in life?

Remember to Smile Everyday, Show Up Everyday, and Succeed Everyday
Find Peace Within
Be blessed,
Lisa Dalton

The Life of a Flower April 1960 - Dec. 2006

Life brings us many surprises. There are some that are not so shockingly surprising, while others just knocks us off our feet. As the word of God says, "there is a time for everything. A time to live and a time to die, a time to plant and a time to reap."

Nine years ago today, two days before my wedding, the Lord called home a very special person in my life, my sister Flora. I was heart broken and confused because of the timing of her death but at the same time, I understood the Lord's doing. Despite the lost of my sister, the wedding took place. It rained that Saturday morning Dec. 23, 2006. I was thinking to myself, Lord, please stop the rain. Please don't let today be a sad, cloudy, dreary day. It's bad enough Flora isn't here, my family is hurting and today is my wedding day. On my first wedding my oldest brother had a terrible car wreck, on my second wedding my son had a terrible car wreck, so please don't let this be another day filled with tragedy and sadness. As the day progressed the rain continued. On the way to the church to prepare for the wedding, the rain stopped, the sky cleared, and the sun came out. It was a beautiful day, I believe the temperature was close to 80 degrees outside.. It was hot enough for me to take pictures outside in my sleeveless dress. That was a sign from God and my sister Flora, that everything was going to be okay, and it was. :).

As I recap the morning I received the call: It was 7:30 and I was on my way to take my then fiance' (Steven's) tuxedo to the cleaners. My phone rang and it was my baby sister Dawn, I could hear the fear in her voice as she said, "Flora just died"... I said, "what, what, are you serious!" I had to pull over into the Amtrak Parking lot to gather my thoughts. I asked her to repeat herself and she did. I made my way to the dry cleaners to drop the clothes off. The lady at the counter knew something was wrong as I am a regular at the cleaners. I told her I just got a call that my sister died and my wedding is in 2 days. I asked her what should I do! My heart is hurting .. should I postpone the wedding on continue with my plans. She said continue with the wedding, your sister would want you to do that. The lady at the counter stopped to say a prayer with me. As I got back in my car, I called home to see what was going on and to get more details of what happened with my sister. She passed at home in her room in the arms of our daddy.... my dad and my sister didn't have the best relationship but in the end, I believe restoration took place as her last words were "daddy" and he was there to hold her as she took her last breath and went on to be with the Lord.

Flora means "Flower"- something beautiful, brings comfort, makes people smile, and brightens every space it occupies. That was the life of my dear sister Flora, a smile that would light up the room, a voice that was quiet and soft but yet heard and understood. She had a way of comforting you and making sure you knew everything was going to be alright. She sat beside me and held my hand when I told my parents I was pregnant. She was there to help me take care of my baby as a teenage mother. She was there to pick me up when I was in places I should not have been. She was the one who said I would write a book one day. She was the one who told me to live my life for me and not for anyone else. She was the one who gave me my first Halle Berry cut...(she messed it up but I didn't care LOL). She was our flower, our little sunshine, our little mouse who often walked in softly, but we knew she had been in the room.. much like a mouse who leaves a trail every where it goes.

Today, we celebrate the Life of a Flower - our dear sister Flora Marie Wilson-Sellers
Gone but not forgotten.

Please remember to Smile Everyday, Show Up Everyday, and Succeed Everyday
Find Peace Within
Be blessed,
Ms. Lisa

Yogurt - A girls best friend

I guess you're wondering how can yogurt be a girls best friend; well guess what it is. The reason is because of a Probiotic bacteria called Acidophilus. Acidophilus is a bacteria that helps to prevent vaginal yeast better known as "yeast infections." How is yeast infections formed? Technically fungus, yeast which is also known as "Candida" or "Monilia." It results from an upset of vaginal Ph or an imbalance of vaginal acid and bare elements. It is not a true "infection" since there is no outside bacteria that enters the body to cause a problem, but this type of infection is an over growth of Monilia naturally found in the vagina.

Now, this is where Yogurt comes into play. Yogurt has an ingredient called Acidophilus which helps to maintain intestinal health and serves as a natural antibiotic against potentially harmful organisms. Taking Acidophilus as a nutritional supplement will help maintain the normal balance of beneficial bacteria in the intestine and vaginal.

However, be careful with antibiotics because they will cause your Ph balance to become imbalanced and cause vaginal yeast. Other causes of vaginal yeast is increased stress, pregnancy, diabetes, and some birth control pills. Try to eliminate white flour, sugar, artificial sweeteners, alcohol and dairy products from your diet and of course decrease that stress.

Remember to Smile Everyday, Show Up Everyday, and Succeed Everyday
Find Peace Within
Be blessed,
Ms. Lisa

The Broken Hinge

This is a story about the broken hinge. I'm not sure if you've had something broken around the house that you just kinda ignored hoping some how it would either fix itself or be fixed by someone else. Well that's the case of the broken hinge. For about a year and a half the bottom hinge to my storage room door has been broken. We kept saying we were going to get it fixed or call Lopez over to fix it, but that never happened. What did happen was, we adapted to the broken door with the broken hinge. We learned how to lift the door in order to close it properly. We learned how to push it harder to close after a good rain, which often time made the door frame swell from moisture. We even learned how to adapt to it it hanging when loading the washer to do laundry.

So, this past weekend, I was fed up so I decided to do a DIY project and that broken hinge was the first thing to get done. After about an three hours I had the new door hinges on the door and properly working. Now comes the amazing part of this story. I had to do laundry that evening, and even though the door was fixed, I was still opening and closing the door as if it was still broken. I laughed at myself and said, "wow, this door has been broken so long I forgot how to close it properly" That got me to thinking.

Have you ever adapted to something broken that  it took you a while to adjust to it being fixed and back in its original state? This is the part of life that we need to try to move quick in. Don't let things stay broken so long that you no longer know how to operate it in its original state. That include you, your spirit, and your soul.

Do not stay broken so long that you no longer know how to operate in the original design God created you to be.

Remember to Smile Everyday, Show Up Everyday, and Succeed Everyday
Find Peace Within
Be blessed,
Ms. Lisa

Breaking the 21 Day Detox Fast

Most people want to lose weight but not not be healthy. When people talk to me about losing weight, they never say "I just want to be healthy." They will tell me they either want to tone up their arms, lose cellulite and get a flat tummy. Well sisters and brothers, it just doesn't quit work that way. But there is a way to start. Your first reason for weight loss should be to increase your life span through health and fitness. But just in case that is not what motivates you to lose weight let's just talk about toning up and losing the tummy.

The way to lose the tummy is to change your eating habits. Totally. Changing your eating habits requires you to change the way you look at food. Several days ago, I introduced you to the green smoothie 10 day detox. This is only a jump start for you, this is not the plan you should do forever. Once you've been successful with your 21 day green smoothie detox, you have to begin putting whole foods back into your diet. 

Breaking the cleanse

Note: Do not go right back into eating whole foods right after the cleanse. You should take at least three days to reintroduce whole foods back into your diet. Having a small salad with your meals is a great start. I suggest you continue drinking your smoothies and listen to your body to see what foods works well for you. I still drink a smoothie for breakfast and sometimes as my last meal of the day since I settle down for the night until around 7 pm. You can have a smoothie for breakfast and lunch and have a salad or sauteed vegetables for lunch and dinner. The goal is to eat very light. If you go back to eating whole foods fast, it may cause you to feel bloated and nauseous. This didn't happen to me, as I still do the smoothies. I eat fish, and chicken. No red meat what so ever. I do not eat salads everyday. Too much roughage is not good for the digestive system. I buy frozen vegetables. A big bag of vegetable medley will cost you $5.98 from Wal-Mart. They also have a really good price on Talipia. Eating healthy really isn't that expensive.

Now that you've lost the weight, let's work on keeping it off..... It's as easy as you make it. So make it easy.

Remember to Smile Everyday, Show Up Everyday, and Succeed Everyday

Find Peace Within

Be blessed,

Ms. Lisa

21 Day Detox Do's and Don'ts - Eat it Right

Well it seems that many of you are interested in the 21 day detox smoothie diet. It's what most people are interested in, losing weight and doing it fast. However, some of you have asked me questions about what to eat and what not to eat during the detoxification. With that, I thought I would post some does and don'ts for you. The detox is really  for 10 days but I went 2 months and I still drink 2 as a meal replacement. Breakfast and dinner.

I'll start with what to avoid:

• In your smoothies for the 10-day cleanse, do not include any starchy vegetables such as sweet potatoes, carrots, beets, or any other vegetables that are not leafy greens.
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• Refined and processed foods such as refined sugar, refined carbs such as white bread, pastas, donuts, etc. and processed foods.
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• Animal foods such as meat, dairy, milk, cheese, etc.
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• Beverages that dehydrate you such as liquor, beer, coffee, sodas/diet sodas.... I'll tell you, I had to have my am coffee... Couldn't start my day without it.
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• Fried foods of any kind

Here is what you can have:

• Smoothie ingredients - only use green leafy vegetables, fruits and water in the green smoothies during the 10 day cleanse.
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• Use dark green leafy vegetables such as spinach, beet greens, swiss chard, kale (I only used spinach)
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• Rotate the greens so you don't build up harmful amounts of alkaloids. 
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• You can add 1 scoop of protein powder per day to your green smoothies so you feel full longer and to help maintain your metabolism. Use a known dairy protein powder such as rice, soy or hemp protein. Do not use Whey Protein which is made from cow's milk. Try RAW Protein by Garden of Life. 
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• You can add bananas, apples, blueberries, grapes (seedless) mango, mixed berries, peaches, pineapple, strawberries. 
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• Ground flaxseeds can be added to your smoothie recipes (take a flaxseed tablet every morning )
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• Stevia as your sweetener
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• Tap water is not recommended ( I use bottled water)

If you need to snack during the day here are your options:

Apples, celery, carrots, cucumbers, and other crunchy vegetables throughout the day

High-protein snacks such as unsweetened peanut butter (this is what I ate) hard-boiled eggs and aw or unsalted nuts and seeds (only a handful)

I hope this is helpful... 

Remember, to Smile Everyday, Show Up Everyday, and Succeed Everyday

Find Peace Within

Be blessed,

Ms. Lisa 

your body deserves to be loved.

Don't Let It Happen to You

Can you believe Christmas is 3 weeks away? Some of us are rushing buying gifts, spending money we don't have and praying we'll be able to pay off the credit cards when the new year comes. We will also be gearing up to eat all the holiday cookies, fruit cake, pound cake, red velvet cake, ice cream, eggnog, and the likes. Let's not even talk about the company parties, church gatherings, family celebrations, and hours in front the TV watching the Hallmark Channel's holiday love stories. (that I am guilty of). After all this is what we do during the Holidays, Right?

However this is what you don't want to happen to you in the next 3 weeks. You get lazy, gain 5 to 10 pounds, stop exercising, stop spending time with the Lord, and stop making time for yourself. Here are a few things I believe will be helpful to you as you prepare to celebrate the Christmas Holiday Season. I believe everything we do in life should lead us to finding peace within and that includes taking care of ourselves during the most challenging time of the year... the HOLIDAYS...

Personal

1. Make prayer and meditation priority 1 in your day.

2. Make you priority 2 in your day

3. Make family priority 3 in your day

4. Everything else is secondary...

Eating

1. Only eat the serving size - if it says the serving size is 1 cup, that that's all you need to get. If it says 1/2 cup is the serving size, that that's all you need to get.

2. When preparing your plate, only get 1 spoon size. Do not double dip

3. Make sure you have a vegetable, carbohydrate (we call it a starch) and a protein. 

4. Make sure your plate is filled with color, green, red, yellow...

5. Drink 1 8 oz of water before eating

6. If you want something sweet, only get a slither of it. 1 cookie, cut that slice of pie in 1/2 and eat the other half tomorrow.

Exercise

1. Walk, walk, walk

2. Walk, walk, walk

3. Walk, walk, walk

4. You Tube is free - find a video you like and move. It only takes 15 - 30 minutes

5. Cancel your gym membership for 2016 - you didn't use it anyway

Now, go and enjoy the holidays, and Don't Let it Happen to You....

Remember to, Smile Everyday, Show Up Everyday, and Succeed Everyday

Find Peace Within

Be blessed,

Ms. Lisa 

Lose 5 lbs in 1 Week???

Is it possible to lose 5 pounds in one week? Yes it is possible, but I don't recommend it, only unless you need a jump start to help you start your lifestyle change. I did it and lost 14 pounds in 2 months. Many didn't think I had to lose that much weight but when you nibble a little here and there, weight just seems to creep up on you. Here is how I did it.

My hair dresser was losing weight and I asked her what was she doing. She said she was doing the 21 day green smoothie detox. Spinach and fruit, blend it in a blender, drink 3 glasses a day and the weight came off. I started right away and lost 5 pounds the first 3 days. I was hooked. Down from 149 to 135. I have maintained the weight lost. It's been 2 months now. I of course incorporated my workouts with the smoothies, but it worked. Now, I do 2 smoothies a day and a good balanced meal.

The smoothies are easy to make,
2 cups of spinach
16 oz of water
2 cups of frozen fruit ( big bag from Wal-Mart $5.98)
Blend it in your blender and there you have it.

Do it for 10 to 21 days or until you've reached your desired weight. Don't forget to exercise at least 20 to 30 minutes 3 to 4 days a week.

Let me know how it goes.

Remember, to Smile Everyday, Show Up Everyday, and Succeed Everyday
Find Peace Within
Be blessed,
Ms. Lisa

Gut Detoxification

How many of you have ever said this - "I just have a gut feeling?" My grandma would say that all the time when she knew I was up to no good. That of course was when I was a child, not as an adult. She'll say, "I have a gut feeling you're up to something." LOL. I've done that with my own sons, even now, I have a gut feeling something else is going on. I just can't put my finger on it. But I'm not talking about the gut feeling you get when something isn't right, I'm talking about the gut feeling that controls the way your body feels.

As you begin your journey on finding peace within, it's important to make sure you're putting the right things in your gut that will cause you to feel good about yourself and the new found peace you'll find. Here are some key important things you need to do to keep your gut feeling good.

1. Drink water everyday, at least eight, 8 oz per day. Try drinking Alkaline water, it's better for you.
2. Eat vegetables everyday. Green leafy vegetables, broccoli, cabbage, greens, kale, and spinach
3. Get a good probiotics (this helps to keep your colon clean)
4. Cut back on your sugar intake. If it's made out of white flour, it's sugar..
5. Detox your liver with 1 tsp of apple cider vinegar with 8 oz. of water.
6. Stay away from soda's... they are filled with sugar and other toxic ingredients

Now, after you've finished having your Christmas dinner, start detoxifying you gut. Your spirit will thank you.

Remember to Smile Everyday, Show Up Everyday, and Succeed Everyday
Find Peace Within
Be blessed,
Ms. Lisa

Keeping it in YOUR Road

As I think about some of the things we see going on in the world today, it's so important for us to stay focused on the important things that matter to us. Do not get caught up with the troubles of other people. Pray, Pray, Pray.

On Thanksgiving I visited my family in SC, and one of my cousin's wives asked my mother (78) and my Auntie her sister.... (80) what do they do to stay so young. They both look amazing for their age. They both laughed and said, "we mind own business and only talk junk to each other"... LOL. I thought that was so funny and very important.

I live by this rule, now that I'm in my 50's...which is - minding my own business and only concerning myself with those things that I can control. It doesn't mean that I am not empathetic about what's going on in the world, but I do not make it a habit to give my opinion about what people choose to do with their lives. The bible says we should pray without ceasing... that's the important thing you can do concerning the business of others...

How do you help others you have no control over? Pray without ceasing.

Remember to Smile Everyday, Show Up Everyday, Succeed Everyday
Find Peace Within
Be blessed,
Ms. Lisa

Grapes Anyone? My Favorite Fruit -

I am in the middle of reading a book "Secret of The Vine" by Bruce Wilkinson the best selling author of The Prayer of Jabez. He is an excellent writer and story teller. In his book, Secret of The Vine he talks about Pruning and Discipline and how to know the difference. This morning I read "A Country Awakening". In this chapter he speaks about he and his wife moving to the country and how excited they were to be able to have grapes fresh off the vine. One morning he looked out his window and saw his neighbor cutting down the vines on the fence that they both shared. He went out and asked his neighbor if he liked grapes, the neighbor said yes, I like grapes. Then he asked his neighbor did he like big juicy grapes, he said of course I like big juicy grapes. But we can either grow ourselves a lot of beautiful leaves filling up this whole fence line, or we can have the biggest, juiciest, sweetest grapes you and your family have ever seen." But We just can't have both.

What a profound  statement. We can have grapes or empty vines. It took the pruning away of the vines to harvest beautiful grapes. Have you ever been pruned and thought it was discipline or disciplined and you thought it was pruning? Here is how to know what season you're in.
God is the Vinedresser.....

PRUNING VS DISCIPLINE

Issue                                                        Disciplining                                      Pruning
1. How do you know it's happening        Pain                                                   Pain
2. Why is it happening?                          You're doing something wrong        You're doing something                                                                                                                              right
3. What is your level of fruitfulness?     No fruit                                              Fruit
4. What is the Vinedresser's desire?       Fruit                                                   More Fruit
5. What needs to go?                              Sin                                                     Self
6. How should you feel?                        Guilty, sad                                         Relief, trust
7. what is the right response?                 Repentance (stop sinning)                Release (give God your                                                                                                                              permission)
8. When does it stop?                             When we stop sinning?                    When God is finished

I think I'll put this on my wall, so I'll know when it's discipline and when it's pruning.

Remember to Smile Everyday, Show Up Everyday, and Succeed Everyday
Find Peace Within
Be blessed,
Ms. Lisa