Don't Make Me Come Out of Myself: How to Stay Centered in the Mist of Chaos

I had a chance to watch James Brown this weekend- the best movie ever... OMG. I absolutely loved it. There are many lessons in that movie. What we know about James Brown is not what I learned this weekend. You see -  James Brown was a man that knew how to find good in bad situations. He took advantage of opportunities that was presented to him and made them work in his favor. He did not let people know he was afraid, as he said, "I'm afraid, but I'm strong." I believe it was his faith in God that kept him moving and going forward. Not only that his "Mantra" was "I Am James Brown"... he put a meaning to his name even before his name had meaning. (God Father of Soul!)

Not only that, he knew when he was being pushed outside of his character. Man - I didn't know James Brown was so in-touch with himself that he knew when he was out of character. There is one part in the movie where he told one of his band member's, "Don't make me come outside of myself." That meant, don't take me out of my CENTER - Don't make me come out of my place of peace.. That really touched me and sparked this weeks topic. How to Stay Centered in Chaos.

I, just like you, have been challenged in situations where I felt like I was coming out of myself. Some of us have tools to use to help us first find our center and tools that will help us stay in our center and  get back there when we find ourselves pushed outside ourselves.

I was faced with this challenge just 2 weeks ago. I had to ask myself "What in the world is going on that is causing you to get out of your center." I realized what it was - someone had come into my space and caused what was normal for me to change-- my EGO didn't like that at all - why - because what was normal and comfortable for me was being challenged. Needless to say, I recognized it and so did a few of my co-workers - So what did I do? I had to get back in my place of peace and get CENTERED.

Today, I am sharing with you 4 steps to staying centered in the mist of chaos. Take time to listen to this weeks video blog, I promise the next 9 minutes will make a difference in how you deal with chaos and those uncomfortable situations.

Find Peace Within,
Ms. Lisa D.

9 Steps to Forgiving For Good

Why is it so hard to forgive but yet easy to seek forgiveness? I've asked myself that same question. There was a time in my life when I didn't understand what forgiveness was or why it was so important to ME. Today I can honestly say, I understand what forgiveness is and why it is so important to do and give. 

Iyanla Vanzant says "Forgive everyone, for everything, everytime." This has helped me in my practice of forgiveness. It so much easier to walk in forgiveness. 

The bible says that we should find peace with all men - That is not always easy to do- not even with your PARENTS. I had to do this 3 years ago... and boy was it challenging, but I'm glad I did. Through submission, surrender, and silence - I found myself back to that place of peace and I found myself asking for forgiveness and forgiving. 

This week, as I often do, I researched what steps I could leave with you that I believe would be helpful in your journey of forgiveness and steps to forgive for ever.

Take time to listen to this weeks blog video and get the 9 steps to Forgiving For Good.

I believe,  as many of you may agree, Forgiveness is a gift from God. He sent His Son - Jesus Christ to die on the cross for our sins and because of His death, our sins have been forgiven. So, if He can do it for us, surely we can do it for ourselves and those we say we love.

This weeks lesson... Peace only comes when we tell ourselves the truth, and be truthful with others. Then and only then can you find Peace Within and Walk in Forgiveness for Good.

Be blessed,

Ms. Lisa 

3 Steps to help you deal with Worry.

Have you ever found yourself worrying about something that hasn't happened yet? What story did you tell yourself about the outcome of your situation? How many times have you stopped living because of worry? How many illnesses (diseases -dis-ease - worry) has taken over your body because of worry.  What is worry - according to Webster, worry is : give way to anxiety or unease; allow one's mind to dwell on difficulty or troubles.

I believe we all have at some point in our lives worried about something we had no control of or at least felt like we had no control of. Some of us are worrying even now. 

Have you ever thought just maybe there is a way to stop worrying? I certainly didn't- not until I figured out, "worrying wasn't changing anything for me". Then I knew I had to find a way to get myself out of the situation I was in and get back in the game. 

My story:

After being employed in one place for 23 years, I found myself unemployed, scared, without a resume', and no clear direction. Of course worry found it's ugly head in my pretty head and made things bigger than what they really were.

Today, I am free from worry- why - because I now have the tools I need to handle those unforeseen things life often brings my way. I use these 3 steps to help me pray, plan, and prepare for that which doesn't exist.

Click on the video to get the 3 steps that you can apply to your life when worry lifts up its ugly head in your pretty head. This will help you think clearer, get direction and find peace within.

Find Peace Within

Ms. Lisa

Finding Your Authentic Self

I've been on this life journey of trying to be true to myself and not be like someone else for 3 years now. I can remember growing up wanting long hair like Carla Pate. I think I was a little jealous of her long hair. I also wanted be have breast like my friend Teresa Farmer... well that never happened. I even remember putting tissue in my training bras just to have the appearance of having big breast and then they created the silicone inserts...oh my goodness had those too. Crazy me! I even cut my cousin's hair because it was very long, all the way down her back and it was thick too. I got in some real trouble for cutting her hair. :(.

As I got older I wanted to be thin, that was the beginning of my eating disorder, People would pick at my big butt,They would say, "Lisa got a big old butt, oh yell." You'll remember the song. - Well I refused to be fat so I did what others did to not be fat.... laxatives, and throwing up. Needless to say, I developed an eating disorder and I never got fat, but it wasn't because of that, it just wasn't in my future.

I remember wearing certain glasses to look older because of who I was dating or married to at the time. I remember wearing long skirts to my ankle because that's the way my husband wanted me to wear it. I remember NEVER cutting my long hair because that's the way someone else wanted it.

Now today, I have short hair...I did by the way have long hair until I was 38. I don't throw-up anymore of take laxatives and there isn't anyone in the world I want to be like other than Lisa Dalton. I found 5 steps to help me become authentic and those 5 steps have helped me to remain to myself to this day. It has taken me about 3 years to get here but I am here and there isn't much that can shake me from being my AUTHENTIC SELF.

Find Peace Within,
Ms. Lisa D.

Click on the link below to find out the steps I used to becoming the Authentic Lisa you know today. 5 Steps to Being Authentic