You Inherited it - You Fix It - Iyanla Vanzant speaks to Women

When you inherit a broken family, you can't throw it away and get a new one.
What you can do is find people and situations that provide for you what your family cannot.

Iyanla Vanzant

Being an African American woman, I've found it interesting that WE as a culture will not get the help we need for our families in order to become better at being a family. We live in dis-functional families and we avoid family gatherings because of the behavior of some. But it's hard to get counseling when you don't know what the REAL problem is. And older people do not want to tell strangers what's going on behind closed doors. As my parents would say, "Don't be telling people what going on behind these doors." Do not put your business in the streets is what they say. But not saying anything has caused us many problems in our own lives. 

I went to counseling twice in my life, and counseling is only as good as the truth you tell. If you're not ready to tell the truth then don't go to counseling. If you want REAL help for you and your family, tell the REAL truth about your part, not about the other person's part.

Remember to Smile Everyday, Show Up Everyday, and Succeed Everyday.
Find Peace Within
Be blessed,
Ms. Lisa