If it hurts, it's still there

How many of you have heard people say they have a problem with you? I'm sure if you are reading this blog, you've heard people make that statement. Now, the question is, do they have a problem with me, or is the problem  really, they really haven't dealt with their own problems to make you be an issue with them. Michael Jackson has a song called, "Man in the Mirror". I don't know the lyrics to the song, but I do know the title. Most of the time when someone has a problem with you, first it's their problem, not your problem. If you get upset about something someone did or said to you, remember, it's your problem, not the person you're upset with problem.

Now, if you're going around offending people on purpose then that is a problem. The bible teaches us to go to our brother and sister in meekness if we feel your brother has an alt against you. If they don't receive you, you get another witness, and if they refuse it, then you go before the church. Most of us aren't going to the church to solve problems, but we must search ourselves to find out why there is a problem in the first place.

So how do you deal with what's still hurting you? First:

DO YOU WANT TO STOP HURTING? Then

1. Admit that you still have a problem in that particular area.

• If you don't like being called out in your wrong, then confess that you still have a problem with     being held accountable.
• You have to deal with the fact, what was said or done to you made you upset.

2. Identify the root of the problem.

• Where did this originate from? Why does this still hurt me? Are there some unresolved issues I have not closed the door to? Deal with the problem don't shut down and or blame someone else for the problem you have.

3. Become aware of how you respond to certain situations.

• It's very important to be self-aware. I heard this quote one time, "the outcome of a conversation depends on the response."
• When you respond in a way that makes you upset, ask yourself this question, Why did I respond that way? and seriously deal with it.

4. Make EVERY effort to change

• When you find yourself behaving the same way when certain situations come up in your life or certain questions are asked, stop and make a decision to do something different.

You may feel like you're okay and or you like being the way you are, anger and all. But that is not how God wants you to live. He says in His word, if you keep your mind stayed on me, He will keep you in perfect peace. So, when you are getting upset and or responding in a way that is causing anxiety within, and or causing you to respond to something that isn't becoming of your character, Where is your mind, and what is your mind on.

Before I respond to a situation, I always ask myself a question, "How do I want this to turn out?"

Find peace within by making a different decision this time. 

Be blessed,

Remember to Smile Everyday, Show Up Everyday, Succeed Everyday

Find Peace Within

Ms. Lisa