You get exactly what you need - Iyanla Vanzant speaks to women

We all get exactly what we need, when we need it, in order to learn what God intends for us to know so we can be who God intends for us to be.

Iyanla Vanzant

God knows just what we need so he creates opportunities for us to grow and learn and trust Him Totally. I needed every journey I've been through to write my book. Today I am able to share what God has a way of getting out of us what we need for us.

Remember to Smile Everyday, Show Up Everyday, and Succeed Everyday
Find Peace Within
Be Blessed,
Ms. Lisa

You Inherited it - You Fix It - Iyanla Vanzant speaks to Women

When you inherit a broken family, you can't throw it away and get a new one.
What you can do is find people and situations that provide for you what your family cannot.

Iyanla Vanzant

Being an African American woman, I've found it interesting that WE as a culture will not get the help we need for our families in order to become better at being a family. We live in dis-functional families and we avoid family gatherings because of the behavior of some. But it's hard to get counseling when you don't know what the REAL problem is. And older people do not want to tell strangers what's going on behind closed doors. As my parents would say, "Don't be telling people what going on behind these doors." Do not put your business in the streets is what they say. But not saying anything has caused us many problems in our own lives. 

I went to counseling twice in my life, and counseling is only as good as the truth you tell. If you're not ready to tell the truth then don't go to counseling. If you want REAL help for you and your family, tell the REAL truth about your part, not about the other person's part.

Remember to Smile Everyday, Show Up Everyday, and Succeed Everyday.
Find Peace Within
Be blessed,
Ms. Lisa

Judging and Accepting - Iyanla Vanzant Speaks to Women

More often than not, the things we detect and judge in others are a reflection of the things we cannot accept about ourselves.

Iyanla Vanzant

She thinks she cute
Why would she wear that
Wow, she's gained a lot of weight
Why would he want to be with her.....

What Iyanla is saying says volumes about how we feel about ourselves as women and how we view other women. Why do we talk about our sisters and say mean things about them...

Ummmm, something to think about.

Grandma said if you don't have anything good to say, then don't say anything at all. If we did that.... WHAT IN THE WORLD WOULD WE HAVE TO TALK ABOUT???

Remember to Smile Everyday, Show up Everyday, and Succeed Everyday
Find Peace Within
Be blessed,
Ms. Lisa

The Debt You Owe - Iyanla Vanzant Speaks to women about paying the debt

"You simply cannot pay the debts that come along with believing you are worthy."
Iyanla Vanzant

There is no amount you can afford to pay for being who you are. Do not ever provide an excuse for being the person you've become from your journey. I will say this, there is always room for improvement and you have the responsibility to yourself to always look for ways to be a better you.

Remember to Smile Everyday, Show Up Everyday, and Succeed Everyday
Find Peace Within
Be blessed,
Ms. Lisa 

Delayed but not Denied - Iyanla Vanzant speaks to women

No matter how many times or how long you have wished, hoped, and prayed for something, because it has not happened yet does not mean it will not happen.

Iyanla Vanzant

There are many things in my life that I've waited for and thought would never come. And that one thing is PEACE. For years I've walked in the shoes of other people and wished I was like someone else. But today, I am happy for who I am and the journey I've had. There is nothing else I would change, even this season of menopause... even though I'm not getting my rest these days.

Remember to keep paying and keep hoping and keep wishing.

Smile Everyday, Show Up Everyday, and Succeed Everyday
Find Peace Within
Be Blessed,
Ms. Lisa

Who you are defines what you want - Iyanla Vanzant speaks to Women about identity

When you don't know who you are, CHANCES are you don't know what you want. When you don't know what you want, THERE is no chance for you to get it. - Iyanla Vanzant  

What a disappointment it would be to live here and never know WHO you are. And when I say "Know who you are", I'm not talking about  mom, wife, teacher, author... I'm referring to WHO you are as a PERSON. What makes you into the person you are? What inspires the character that you present to the world everyday.

Who am I, I am love, I am peace, I am smiles, I am happy, I am contagious, I am joy.... that's who I am and that's who I present to the world everyday. Me knowing who I am, has helped me to understand what it is I want out of life and out of my life.

Find your place within... Find Peace within.. Find your voice within

Remember to Smile Everyday, Show Up Everyday, and Succeed Everyday
Find Peace Within
Be Blessed
Ms. Lisa

Acceptance means you're okay - Iyanla Vanzant Speaks

Acceptance does not mean you agree with it, appreciate, or even like what has happened. Acceptance means that you know, regardless of what happened, that there is something bigger than you at work.

It also means that you know that you are okay, and that you will continue to be okay. Iyanla Vanzant

I write about this very subject in my book, "Smile, Show Up, Succeed Everyday." I have accepted the person I have become, I am okay with people not liking me or accepting me the way I am. I am okay with the opinions of others as those opinions does not identify who I am. And you know what, I accept that IT'S OKAY...

Find your okay in your acceptance.... because it's okay. :)

Remember to Smile Everyday, Show Up Everyday, and Succeed Everyday
Find Peace Within
Be blessed,
Ms. Lisa