To Co-exist Peacefully- Sacrifice or Compromise

This week I started reading "A New Earth Create a Better Life" by author Eckhart Tolle. One of Oprah Winfrey's well known guest and Super Soul Sunday contributors. In the beginning of the book he speaks about the importance of co-existing and how the ability to compromise is the best way to do such.

I've often thought about the ability to compromise and how different it is from sacrificing. Eckhart Tolle says that when we understand our mental position we are able to tolerate people's beliefs and perspectives. I agree with that statement hold heartedly. However, at what point does sacrificing and compromising for peaceful coexistence become too much to do? What is the difference between a compromise and a sacrifice. In my opinion when a compromise is made it's a win/win situation for everyone. I may not get my way this time but I can live with the decision that was made, knowing the next time, I'll be able to get my way. Do we buy a sports car or a mini van, after all we have 5 kids. Sounds like we're getting a mini van. Then when ALL the kids are out of the house, we'll get the sports car. Sounds like a good compromise.

Now, a sacrifice is when something is given up that is needed with the hopes of one day reaping from the sacrifice that was made. Often times, we make more sacrifices than compromises and get very little in return.

As a mother and wife, there have been many days I've sacrificed going to bed on time to prepare a meal that didn't get eaten. There was no personal gain for me sacrificing that time. I still got to bed late and the sacrifice wasn't appreciated. I've sacrificed doing things for myself to help my husband take care of ministry obligations. Sacrifices like this that occur often, could possibly make co-existing challenging.

I remember complaining to our Father one day while working in the yard. I was going innnnn... talking about everything I do for my family and what I don't get back from them. I asked Him, when will it ever be about Lisa. He spoke clearly to me saying; "Continue to serve your family, and I'll take care of you.' He has done just that. I still make sacrifices even when I don't understand. And my Father has always come through for me.

God tells us that if we give our tithe back to Him, He will rebuke the devourer for our sake. It's because of the sacrifices we're protected from the devices the enemy has planned for us. I've learned to look at sacrifices the same way. What I sacrifice will come back to me in greater ways through my Father God. I do believe it's important to communicate to those who we believe are using us and disrespecting our sacrifices. So, how do we deal with those individuals?

My suggestion is to first:

1. Make sure your feelings are valid.
2. Make your concerns known.
3. Decide how much you're willing to sacrifice.
4. Put a limit on those sacrifices.
5. Don't sacrifice that which will cause you discomfort, resentment or harm.

What's my message today. Learning  to co-exist peacefully does require sacrifices and compromises. Just be sure your compromises do not turn into sacrifices. Because that action will turn to resentment in the end. Next, know that our Father sees every sacrifice and what you sacrifice secretly our Father will reward you openly. Ask me, I know because He's done it for me!

Remember to Find Peace Within,

Be blessed,
Ms. Lisa

Consider Your Ways - Week 3 of 21 Day Spring Soul Cleaning

In our quest to become authentic beings, we must consider our ways along the way. I've highlighted 3 things we must consider when being our authentic selves. Click on the video to hear the lessons I learned as I continue in my 21 day Soul Spring Cleaning.



Remember to Find Peace Within

Be blessed,

Ms. Lisa D.  :)

Do All You Do as Unto The Lord - Week 2 of 21 Day Spring Soul Cleaning

Have you ever felt like nobody paid you any attention or gave you any recognition for a job well done? Well I have. During this weeks 21 day Spring Soul Cleaning, I had to be reminded. That all I do is unto the Lord. Week 2 of our 21 day Spring Soul Cleaning.



Remember to Find Peace Within,

Be blessed,

Ms. Lisa

FPWN Shady Rady Shaming Tree Medium 1

Have you ever been Shamed or had Shade thrown at you? Well I sure have. And today I have a message for you. Click on the link below to find out how to keep the Sun shining bright over your life.




Remember to
Find Peace Within,
Be blessed,
Ms. Lisa D.  :)

Spring Cleaning Time

The sun is out, the weather is warm and now is that time of year we get rid of those things we that we don't want. In this video, I challenge you to start your Spring cleaning now. Not just in your house but in your temple.

Remember  "A Centered Soul is a Centered Mind"

Find Peace Within
Be blessed,
Ms. Lisa

I'm All Grown Up Now - When Soul, Drugs, Sex and Fate Meets

Just imagine this - you're five years old and the gun shots begin flying over your head as you hide behind the door to keep from getting shot. Or imagine this - you're six years old sitting in a room with your family members as they divide pounds of cocaine to prepare for distribution. Or imagine this - you're eight yeas old and you've now become the look out person for the drug dealers who come in and out of your mother's door to ensure she and everyone else want get picked up by the cops. Or imagine this - you're now nine years old and you'll riding in the car with your grandma while she makes her night drops to her drug customers. Now imagine you're 10 and have become the person responsible for taking care of your 3 year old brother because your mom is in love with her demons, drugs, sex, men and money, which causes her to stay out for days leaving you home alone.
You're having to care for a child when you're just a child yourself.

Does any of that sound familiar to you? Has this life been apart of your experiences? Or you currently having this life experience? What happens when the adults in your life haven't dealt with their own demons and those demons could possibly become apart of your life? What does a little girl do when all she knows is a home filled with dysfunctions, no guidance on how to behave as a girl or prepare for those things that girls go through?

What does she do? She looks out the window and dream. She goes across town and dream. She learns how to survive in the streets that is sure to eat her alive, if she doesn't find a way out. She take care of brother in hopes he doesn't end up like all the other men in her family. What does a girl do when she doesn't have anyone to call on when her heart is broken? She learns how to depend on herself and only herself.

I recently had the pleasure of meeting a beautiful young lady whose experiences I just shared with you. Not to throw shade on her or to bring shame to her experiences. I am sharing her story with you because she made a decision to beat all the odds that were stacked against her. To look at her, you wouldn't know that she lived her life with the fear of being killed, raped, or becoming a drug addict like most of the adults in her family. She had a broken mother, a broken grandmother, broken aunts and uncles, broken cousins and a broken story. But she didn't let her final story be broken. You see, she made up in her mind that she was going to do things differently.

She shared her story of going on school field trips to the South side of town and dreaming of having a mom that picked her up from school everyday. She dreamed of having a home to come to where there was love and acceptance. She dreamed of having a home where mom was there to cook dinner and help with homework. She dreamed of having a place to feel safe. That was not her reality, but that did not stop her from dreaming. Disappointed and filled with questions, she kept moving forward in school, getting weak some days and wanting to drop out, like her cousins have done, but God had an angel whispering in her ear, yes you can! and guess what...she did!

Today, she is a high school graduate, the only one in her family to graduate and enrolled in college studying to get her degree in education. She learned how to fight for herself and her life. She wants to be a teacher one day and help at risk youth. She's taking the experiences she had as a child and turning it into her ministry. She's 21 now and has a good job, studying hard and staying out of trouble as she is preparing for the life that she has always dreamed of.

She told me that she doesn't know how she made it out without a baby and without being rapped or addicted to drugs. I told her that God had His hands on her from the moment she was conceived. He knew that she would be needed to raise her brother and her smaller cousins. I told her, God knew that He needed a young person to experience what she's experienced so she could become a teacher and help those students whose parents are doing the same thing to them that her mom did to her. She said, "I guess you're right Ms. Lisa, because I've always wanted to be a teacher and help kids. I hated my life and said I would never do my child like that if I was to ever become a mom." I told her that I was super proud of her and will be there to celebrate with her when she walks across that stage to receive her diploma.

So, what does the SOUL say when Soul and Fate meets.... Soul says, "I've been waiting for this moment, we have work to do and souls to help."

She knew there was another way to live...another way of life... and she's on her way...  :)

It doesn't matter how you were brought up, what you got or didn't get as a child. You have the ability to re-write the story that other's have written for you. Take up your pen and walk.... there's a bright side at the end.

Remember to Find Peace Within,
Be blessed,

Ms. Lisa D.

Delivered or Dormant - When Soul and Test Meet

Once a theft always a theft. Once a liar always a liar. Once a cheater always a cheater. Does any of these phrases sound familiar? I'm sure they do.

A church person receives a call from the famous Nephew Tommy from the @SteveHaveyMorningShow. Unknowing to the church person on the phone, Nephew Tommy pushes their buttons so far that he or she begins to use curse words.. Something they said they were delivered from. Once Nephew Tommy gets them all the way out there, he tells who he is and that they've been prank by .whomever.. .and get this.. and most of the time it's another church person. The caller precedes to say that they are embarrassed and ask Tommy if they were on the radio. He of course says yes. Then the church person says that they haven't cursed in years and that the Lord had delivered them from cursing. Well, I wonder if they were delivered or was all that cursing just sitting dormant waiting for the right moment to reveal itself so it could come out.

Now let me use myself as the next example.

I am a recovering Bulimic. One who would eat as much food as I liked, then go in the bathroom and throw it up. Or, I would take laxatives so it wouldn't sit in my stomach over night. This went on for years. From the age of 16 to I'll say 39 or 40. I can say that I've been delivered from Bulimia or have I really. As there are times when I feel like I want to throw up or feel the need to take a laxative after I've eaten something I knew I shouldn't have eaten because it may trigger the desire to throw up or eliminate quickly. Have I thrown up or taken laxatives to eliminate after I've eaten something bad, YES.. am I still delivered YES.

What about the person who was a habitual cheater or drinker or drug user. Are they really delivered from that demon or is it just sitting dormant, waiting for the next test. I've cheated in my previous marriages. It was by choice for sure. In my current marriage I haven't cheated.   I delivered or have I made a spiritual decision NOT to cheat. Have I been tested, sure I have. Did I fall, no I didn't. WHY.. because I've made a conscious decision to keep my covenant first with God and secondly to my husband. Am I delivered from cheating. Yes I am.

Before I got delivered from my eating disorder, I wasn't aware of the WHY it exist in my life. I didn't know why I was a cheater before being delivered from promiscuity. When I began my TRUE Spiritual journey I discovered the WHY behind my issues. It was because of abandonment. Those spirits came along with the strong man of Abandonment.

I know what triggers the desire to do those things I've been delivered from and I do my best to avoid anything that would trigger those desires.

There are things I stay away from that doesn't push me to do what I know I've been delivered from and is sitting dormant just waiting for the right opportunity to show it's nasty head in my life again.


Here is what I do to stay delivered:

1. I Stay away from fast foods as much as possible. There are times when we're on the road traveling and fast food is the only option. I do not get hamburgers and milk shakes. I'll get a small chicken sandwich and a small bag of fries or side salad. Because I don't eat those foods often, my body rejects it automatically. So, there's no need to take a laxative or throw up. I made a choice to choose something that wouldn't trigger the need to throw up or take a laxative.

NOTE: If I have to take something to eliminate, I take a detox tea that's made from natural herbs and is not habit forming.

2. I do not look at shows where spouses are cheating on each other.

3. I do not look at shows with a lot of sexual contact and content. Not even heavy petting, kissing etc. Even though I'm married and can clearly and easily enjoy those moments with my husband, I personally prefer not to put those scenes in my spirit. (the the gate to your soul... the eyes.)

4. I'm not around the opposite sex alone EVER. I protect myself, my husband and our marriage by avoiding those situations. If it's business or a situation where I have no other choice but be along, it's not because there is any other motives outside of the reason what's being handled at the time. I know the enemy will present itself in the form that he knows I love. He'll do it to you too, what ever that type is.

5. I stay in the word. I read the word of God daily and pray for my mind, spirit, and soul.

6. If the feeling does arise, I ask myself WHY is this happening.

7. I Identify what's missing, what's triggering it and handle it.

Delivered or Dormant - you decide.What I know to be true -  When you've done your Spiritual Soul work, (being fully aware of your WHY's) what's lying dormant will submit itself to the process of staying delivered.

Remember to Find Peace Within,

Be blessed,
Ms. Lisa D.